The other day I was teaching a workshop on communication—one I’ve taught many times before.

We were covering the usual ground: active listening, body language, tone, clarity of message… all the classic markers of “effective communication.”

And then it hit me.

Much of what we teach as communication success is built on a very specific set of assumptions—ones that don’t fully reflect the workplaces we’re in today.

It assumes everyone processes information the same way.
It assumes everyone shares the same cultural norms.
It assumes that professionalism has one universal look and sound.

And that’s just not true anymore… if it ever was.

So I started asking myself:

What does effective communication look like in a neurodiverse, multicultural workplace?

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From “Polished” to “Accessible”

Traditional communication training often focuses on performance:

• Make eye contact
• Watch your tone
• Don’t fidget
• Read the room
• Respond quickly

But these are style norms—not universal indicators of respect, engagement, or competence.

In modern workplaces, the goal of communication isn’t polish.

It’s access.

Can people understand the message?
Can they process it?
Do they feel safe responding?
Do they have multiple ways to engage?

Because if people can’t access the conversation, they can’t contribute to it.

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A Neurodiversity Lens on Communication

When we design communication training around neurotypical norms, we unintentionally exclude a lot of brilliant minds.

For example:

Processing time
Not everyone can respond instantly. Some people need pause time to think before speaking. Rapid-fire discussion often favors verbal processors and disadvantages reflective ones.

Literal vs. implied language
Phrases like “circle back” or “when you get a chance” can be confusing or anxiety-inducing for those who prefer clear, direct instructions.

Compare:

“It would be great if this got done soon.”
vs.
“Please complete this by Thursday at noon.”

Clarity is kindness.

Body language myths
Lack of eye contact, flat affect, or fidgeting are often misread as disengagement when they’re actually regulation or focus behaviors.

Engagement doesn’t have one look.

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Cultural Intelligence Matters Too

Layer culture on top of neurodiversity, and communication becomes even more complex.

Consider how differently these behaviors can be interpreted:

• Eye contact can signal respect… or disrespect.
• Directness can feel honest… or aggressive.
• Silence can feel awkward… or thoughtful.
• Self-promotion can feel confident… or inappropriate.

Many Western communication models prioritize speed, assertiveness, and verbal participation.

But in high-context or collectivist cultures, listening, relational awareness, and humility may be more valued.

Neither is wrong—but misalignment creates misunderstanding.

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Updating the Way We Teach Communication

So what do we do with this?

We don’t throw communication training out.

We evolve it.

Here are a few shifts I’ve started integrating into my workshops:

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1. Build in processing space
   Use think-write-share instead of immediate verbal response.
2. Layer communication channels
   Say it, write it, visualize it, and summarize it.
3. Normalize clarification
   Create cultures where asking “Can you restate that?” feels safe.
4. Reduce idioms and vague language
   Especially in written instructions or cross-cultural teams.
5. Offer participation options
   Chat, written reflection, small groups, or asynchronous input.
6. Stop over-interpreting body language
   Check for understanding instead of assuming disengagement.

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A Systems Thinking Perspective

Because I can’t help myself—this is also a systems issue.

When communication breaks down, we tend to locate the problem in the person:

“They’re not professional.”
“They’re not engaged.”
“They’re not a good communicator.”

But often the real question is:

• Was the message accessible?
• Was the channel appropriate?
• Was psychological safety present?
• Were cultural norms considered?
• Was processing time allowed?

Communication failures are frequently design failures—not people failures.

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The Future of Communication Training

If we want communication training to remain relevant, it has to expand beyond etiquette and delivery.

It needs to include:

• Neurodiversity awareness
• Cultural intelligence
• Psychological safety
• Accessibility principles
• Adaptive communication strategies

In other words, we move from teaching people how to perform communication…

…to teaching organizations how to design communication environments where more people can succeed.

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I’d love to hear your thoughts.

Have you ever been in a training where the “rules” of communication didn’t quite fit how you process or express yourself? Or have you started adapting your own communication practices as workplaces evolve?

Let’s keep the conversation going—because communication itself is still evolving.